Friday, June 11, 2021

Dear Mum and Dad

 June 10 would have been your 60th wedding anniversary.


How striking you both looked on June 10, 1961, ready to take on the world, "striving together" - your inscription inside your wedding bands. 

And for 46 years you did just that. You both worked diligently and without complaint, a true team even when you weren't physically together in the same city. 

Our home was filled with laughter, with singing, with conversation. With people. 

With love. 

You raised the six of us to love each other. You instilled into us that old acrostic for JOY:

                                       Jesus first

                                      Others next

                                      Yourself last

And you walked the talk. There are many people in many parts of the world who can attest to your love for God, your love for each other, your love for your kids (both us and the many others whom you also loved and prayed for faithfully), and your love for pretty much anyone with whom you came into contact. 

You both enjoyed teaching and you were good at it, investing into your students' lives. 

You lived life to the fullest, with integrity, curiosity and enthusiasm. 

On what should have been your 50th anniversary, Dad prepared a crown roast banquet for us, complete with fine china and the antique silverware he lovingly polished because "that's what Mum would have liked." 


After the feast, we all went out to the graveyard and we sang some of the mighty old hymns: "Amazing Grace" and "Great is Thy Faithfulness" and "Because He Lives I Can Face Tomorrow". Even though one of you was in heaven and the other still on earth, it didn't seem like you were that far apart. 

And now, for your 60th anniversary - even though I am not sure how it all plays out up there - I imagine you are together, even closer than you were down here. 

We are all doing okay, for the most part. You wouldn't have liked the last 15 months if you had still been with us: your deepest earthly joy was to be together as a family. But the vicissitudes of life without you have kept us close to each other, and nothing can take away that bond. That is something you both prayed for, I know. Thank you for teaching us that the greatest of all is love. 

We would never wish you back; but, oh, how we miss you! 

I can just hear you singing to us ... 

Goodnight, our God is watching o'er you
Goodnight, His mercies go before you
Goodnight, and we'll be praying for you
So goodnight, may God bless you. 





62 comments:

Arland Nayagam said...

Oh what a great blessing they are in our lives

Sam George said...

Blessed Memories

Sumitra Gaikwad said...

I love this picture ❤️of Beloved couple Patricia &Allan Ironside.It was my joy to know them both through Bombay Baptist Church & Berean Bible College.I was present at their Wedding. Miss them.

Mim Dartnall-Smith said...

A 60th Anniversary is marked by diamonds ◇

Karyn, both your parents were true Diamonds: very strong, firm when they needed to be and shining brightly like a beacon guiding others around them towards the right path.
"Happy Heavenly Anniversary ❤️"

Shobana Rao said...

So beautifully written Karyn. You are surely blessed to have experienced such loving parents. God bless.

Rebecca Shelli Kumar said...

Beautiful tribute to your beautiful parents Karyn ! Their godly legacy will continue .❤❤

Mary Swinden said...

Such A blessed couple
In the Lord's kingdom

Annie Jeremiah said...

Godly and wonderful couple . Brought many to Christ

Sue Negrych said...

I loved them both so much. Always there with open arms, I felt the genuine love they had for me, one of their many "adopted" children. ❤️

Sathish Rajendran said...

Absolutely beautiful... Love them and their beautiful memories !!

Mary Cassidy said...

There’s so much love in this picture ❤️❤️❤️

Salome Cherian said...

Beautiful Karyn!

Joyce Lloyd said...

Beautiful! How blessed you are and were. Your parents are what a home should be.
Happy 60th Anniversary and just too think you are spending it with The King and it’s forever.

Chingboi Hangsing said...

Beautiful couple indeed!! Forever thankful to God for their impact in my life❤️

Jacob Mung said...

The physical children as well as extended children are so much blessed

Jayanti Banerjee said...

Another similarity between our parents (your Mum and my Dad share a birthday)! It’s my parents’ 60th anniversary this year as well - a month (almost to the day) after your parents.
Thinking of them and you...

Ruth Ann Tschetter Schwalbe said...

Two of my favorite people! Miss them! ❤️

Sarah Chelli Rajkumar said...

Awww… so cute !
Now, I remember the tune of that song ��
Goodnight… our God is watching o’er you.

Doreen Nixon said...

Absolutely precious! Thanx once again for sharing with us.❤️❤️❤️❤️

Rongsen Jamir said...

Amazing precious couple, their memories linger, misses them.

Rachel Shah said...

Karyn, So beautiful and so true .. taught us so much about love.. love these pictures of them always smiling ..miss talking to them

Dudley Hooper said...

Miss them a lot and so thankful for their mentor ship towards me.

Peggy N Dave Lanigan said...

A very beautiful tribute Karyn!❤️

Jeanie Davis said...

such beautiful people❤️

Pravin Wilson said...

Nice. I think my parents 60th was April 6. My dad passed away in a car accident in 1987 though we never forget!

Karyn said...

Pravin, I had wondered what had happened to your Dad. I am so sorry to hear this. Mr Wilson was an amazing man. So full of dignity and kindness.

Karen Sudds said...

So beautiful

Kathy Covert said...

This picture says it all!

Allison Bale-Akizuki said...

❤️❤️❤️

Heather Morin said...

Love this picture... that's exactly how I remember your parents ❤️

Karyn said...

Heather, I think you know who would have captured them so well in a picture!

Irene Dorcas Eda said...

Blessed by their ministry ❤️

Mercedes Webb said...

❤️❤️❤️

Daniel Bhandari said...

Amen

Bev Davis said...

Mine also, had he lived!

Ruth Tozer said...

Love the pic! Happy memories!

Erin and Bryan Repetski said...

I love that JOY acrostic- going to have to borrow that! What a beautiful tribute....I can’t think of anything I’d rather have my kids say about me than what you wrote there- what a gift!

Pat Koch said...

Your parents were such a joy…hugs Karyn❤️

Jess and Grace Enochs said...

We still remember our first meeting in Greendale, Wisconsin. And the last. Meeting in Canada. We do miss them. But we know they ran the race well that God planned for them on this side of heaven

Suki K. Braich said...

Awww, amazing soul. I really miss your mom.

Diana Sammon-Cleland said...

What a blessing they were in your life and what a precious gift you have been to them. The circle of love. ❤️

Deanna Johnson said...

What a great life they lead and certainly passed it on to you ❤

Karyn said...

Deanna thank you for this. It takes all six of us to keep up to them!!

Naomi Gunti said...

Lovely. Blessing to have godly parents.

Karyn said...

Naomi, as you know well yourself... xoxo

Brenda Lee Raine Hartley said...

Your parents were so precious to me Karyn!! I have so many wonderful memories of times with your family! Happy Anniversary Aunty Patty and Uncle Allan!!❤️❤️❤️

Karyn said...

You were always their Brenda Lee!! ❤️❤️❤️

Grace Wiens said...

Precious ❤️

Bronwyn Spilsbury said...

They had something no-one can describe, no-one can measure, and no-one can take away.

That rich, creamy love, smoother than buttermilk; that starry radiance, brighter than candles; that fragrant presence, sweeter and deeper than black rose powder. They had the essence of life itself, living water from within, unstoppable, thirst satisfying, soul restoring. No wonder we loved being with them.

Goodnight, see you in the morning, dearest, Dad and Mum. Most beloved earthly partings open a gateway to heaven’s inner door. ♥️ Behind that door is laughter, wisdom, feasting, and song! See you soon!

Karyn said...

Bronwyn, well said. Well said.

Sharon Stek said...

Precious!❤️

Arlene McComish said...

Whenever your parents come to my mind I feel lifted with kindness.

Your parents lived their lives not only preaching God and the gospel, but God living through them.

And while that description may give someone who didn’t know them an impression of people guarded, and maybe quietly invisible … that was far from them.

The blend of the two together brought a kindness, genuine interest in others well-being, sparkling conversation, and fun … somehow continually blended with spiritual sincerity. They made people feel seen and loved. They complemented each other so well.

I’m sure you know that I feel a special joy when I especially think of your mom.
I truly love her, and loved being around her. She was so entertaining, without any intention of being entertaining. It was just who she was by being who she was.

There is not a time that I think of your mom and dad without a feeling of warmth … and without recalling with a smile, your mom naming me “The wicked woman”.

They were both truly exceptional people.
This “wicked woman” will never forget them … their love for each other, and their servants hearts.

Karyn said...

Oh Arlene McComish... Thank you for this. How they loved your family - and HOW she loved you. Of all the people I know, you are akin to her. You both are genuine through and through. You speak the truth in love. You notice people and you hear them, because you are genuinely interested in them. You have a quick intelligence, and you can put people at their ease.

You both shine your light just by being you. By letting God's light shine through you.

Oh, you "wicked woman" you. I love you.

Jeanie Davis said...

Love this ❤️beautifully expressed

Joanne McMurray said...

What a wonderful tribute to two precious people. You had me in tears as I read it. They made an indelible impression on my heart for the time I knew them and I am richer for it. Will never forget them!

Lillian Anderson said...

ARLENE YOU are so great at expressing yourself and giving praise a wonderful tribute yes we knew Patty also and enjoyed her company Wonderful when a couple can leave such a wonderful legacy as they did

Paul Isaiah said...

Dear. Dr.Ironside & family. I am proud to be your last student in India. What a great examplary life you lived ! I learned lot of things from you. One day we will meet you with the Lord in the air.

Hemkholun Khongsai said...

So lovely! Missed them so much.

Monica Stiles said...

So beautiful this tribute to your dear parents. Thanks for sharing

Pravin Subbaiah said...

The most wonderful people I have ever known. Really miss them ❤️

Karyn said...

Oh Pravin. You know how much they loved you... Wish we could all be together again...

Bronwyn Spilsbury said...

Pravin Subbaiah thank you for saying this. It helps me realize how incredible they were, and want to be more like them. You were a treasure to them.